Trauma and loss of self
Trauma has a profound way of reshaping the mind, body, and soul. For many, one of the most disorienting effects of trauma is the loss of self. It’s not uncommon to feel disconnected from your desires, goals, and even your identity after experiencing trauma. This loss often stems from spending too much time in survival mode—a state designed to protect us in moments of danger but not meant to be sustained. Let’s explore how trauma leads to a loss of self, its ripple effects on various aspects of life, and how to rebuild a strong sense of identity.
Healthy disagreements
Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship. It’s natural to disagree from time to time, especially when two people with unique perspectives, values, and emotions share their lives together. However, disagreements don’t have to be destructive. In fact, when handled with care and understanding, conflict can actually strengthen a relationship.
Trauma Therapy in Oregon and Washington
Trauma has a way of shaping our lives in profound and often invisible ways. It can affect how we see ourselves, connect with others, and navigate the world. For those carrying the weight of unresolved trauma, therapy can be a transformative tool to reclaim a sense of safety, stability, and connection. Let’s explore what trauma is, how it impacts us, and the therapeutic approaches that can guide you on a path to healing.
Understanding Complex PTSD: Part 2
Healing from CPTSD is a complex but deeply rewarding journey. By engaging in therapy, practicing self-care, and building supportive relationships, individuals can reclaim their lives from the grip of trauma. Recovery may take time, but with the right tools and compassionate guidance, individuals with CPTSD can move toward a life of greater emotional balance, healthier relationships, and renewed hope for the future. The path to healing is not about perfection but about embracing one’s humanity, resilience, and capacity for growth.
Couples therapy in Eugene, OR and online throughout Oregon and Washington
Relationships are at the core of our lives, offering companionship, support, and love. But no relationship is without challenges. When communication breaks down, trust is shaken, or unresolved trauma affects the dynamic, even the strongest of relationships can feel strained. Couples therapy provides a safe space for partners to address these issues, repair the emotional bonds, and foster deeper intimacy. If you’re struggling to find that connection with your partner or feel stuck in unhelpful patterns, couples therapy could be the key to rebuilding your relationship.
Finding Your Voice: Assertiveness Skills for Individuals with Avoidant Attachment
Navigating relationships can be challenging for anyone, but for individuals with an avoidant attachment style, expressing needs and emotions can feel particularly overwhelming. When avoidance becomes a core defense mechanism, individuals may find it difficult to communicate openly, advocate for themselves, or even recognize their own emotional needs. This can create a cycle of isolation and dissatisfaction in relationships, leaving individuals feeling unheard and disconnected.
Managing Relationships When You and/or Your Partner Have Complex PTSD
Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship, but for couples coping with the impact of complex PTSD (C-PTSD), maintaining open and productive dialogue can be especially challenging. Emotional dysregulation—a common symptom of C-PTSD—can significantly hinder communication and create an environment where misunderstandings, conflict, and emotional pain take center stage.
Overcoming fear of vulnerability: avoidant attachment
Intimacy and vulnerability are essential components of healthy relationships, but for individuals with an avoidant attachment style, these aspects of connection can be particularly challenging. Avoidant attachment often manifests as a deep-seated fear of emotional closeness, leading to difficulties in forming and maintaining intimate relationships.
Healing Relationships with Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy
In every relationship, there are moments of disconnect, misunderstandings, and emotional pain. For couples, these moments can create distance, erode trust, and, over time, lead to significant relationship strain. This is especially true for couples where one or both partners have experienced trauma. Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) offers a powerful and effective approach to healing and strengthening relationships by addressing the underlying emotional dynamics that drive conflict and disconnection.
Fear of abandonment and rejection: anxious attachment
Anxious attachment, a term rooted in attachment theory, describes a style of relating to others characterized by a deep-seated fear of abandonment and rejection. This attachment style often develops in childhood and can significantly influence one's adult relationships. Understanding anxious attachment and its implications is crucial for fostering healthier connections and personal well-being.
You’re allowed to change your mind!
One of the most empowering yet challenging aspects of healing from trauma is learning to set boundaries. For many who have experienced trauma, this concept can be daunting. However, it is crucial to understand that you are always allowed to change your mind and make decisions that best support your well-being.
Why do I keep ending up with toxic people?!
Abuse in intimate relationships is a deeply distressing and complex issue that affects countless individuals worldwide. As a therapist specializing in trauma recovery, I see the impact that abusive relationships can have on a person's mental, emotional, and physical well-being. In this blog post, we’ll look at the various forms of abuse, the cyclical nature of abusive relationships, and the challenges individuals face in breaking free from such cycles.
The impact of trauma: PTSD vs. C-PTSD
Trauma can have profound and lasting impacts on an individual's life, influencing their mental, emotional, and physical well-being. While trauma responses can manifest in various forms, two primary conditions are commonly discussed: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). Understanding the nuances between these two disorders is crucial for effective treatment and support.
Why masking your emotions isn’t helping anyone
In the journey of trauma recovery, one of the often overlooked but critical aspects is the tendency to mask emotions. Many individuals, especially those who have experienced significant trauma, develop this coping mechanism as a way to navigate through life. While it might appear on the surface that such individuals are exceptionally calm and grounded, the reality is often far more complex.
The downside of healing your childhood trauma
Healing from childhood trauma is a courageous and transformative journey, but it's not without its challenges. While embarking on the path to healing can lead to profound personal growth and empowerment, it also involves confronting uncomfortable truths, making difficult choices, and navigating significant changes in various aspects of life.
Not all affairs are equal… or are they?
In romantic relationships, the concept of infidelity extends far beyond physical acts of betrayal. While both emotional and physical affairs can have profound impacts on relationships, they differ in their nature and consequences. In this blog post, we'll explore the distinctions between emotional and physical affairs, societal perceptions of infidelity, and strategies for navigating the aftermath of betrayal.
Tips for surviving Mother’s Day when you’re an adult with childhood trauma
As Mother's Day approaches, many individuals are preparing to celebrate with flowers, brunches, and heartfelt gestures to honor the women who have nurtured and shaped their lives. However, it's essential to acknowledge that for some, this holiday can evoke complex emotions and challenges.
Who’s to blame here?!
It’s completely normal for conflicts to arise in relationships. But, how we respond to these conflicts can reveal deep-seated patterns and beliefs about ourselves and others. Some individuals have a natural tendency to blame others when faced with challenges, deflecting responsibility and externalizing the problem. Conversely, others are quick to shoulder the blame, assuming fault even when it may not be warranted.
Why it’s easier to blame yourself in relationships
Self-blame is a common, yet often overlooked, aspect in relationships. When difficulties arise, one partner will often shoulder the responsibility, while the other remains mostly unaccountable. As this cycle perpetuates, it creates an imbalance that prevents growth and healing. In this blog post, we're discussing self-blame in relationships, why it's often easier to blame ourselves than our partners, and how this pattern can impact individual and relational well-being.
The complex grief of seeking space from your parents
As a therapist specializing in trauma recovery, I often work with individuals who make the challenging decision to establish boundaries or seek space from their parents. This choice can stem from various factors, each contributing to a unique and complex set of emotions. Let's explore some common reasons why adults may choose this path and discuss the grief and guilt that accompanies such a decision.