Healthy disagreements
Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship. It’s natural to disagree from time to time, especially when two people with unique perspectives, values, and emotions share their lives together. However, disagreements don’t have to be destructive. In fact, when handled with care and understanding, conflict can actually strengthen a relationship.
Couples therapy in Eugene, OR and online throughout Oregon and Washington
Relationships are at the core of our lives, offering companionship, support, and love. But no relationship is without challenges. When communication breaks down, trust is shaken, or unresolved trauma affects the dynamic, even the strongest of relationships can feel strained. Couples therapy provides a safe space for partners to address these issues, repair the emotional bonds, and foster deeper intimacy. If you’re struggling to find that connection with your partner or feel stuck in unhelpful patterns, couples therapy could be the key to rebuilding your relationship.
Managing Relationships When You and/or Your Partner Have Complex PTSD
Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship, but for couples coping with the impact of complex PTSD (C-PTSD), maintaining open and productive dialogue can be especially challenging. Emotional dysregulation—a common symptom of C-PTSD—can significantly hinder communication and create an environment where misunderstandings, conflict, and emotional pain take center stage.
Overcoming fear of vulnerability: avoidant attachment
Intimacy and vulnerability are essential components of healthy relationships, but for individuals with an avoidant attachment style, these aspects of connection can be particularly challenging. Avoidant attachment often manifests as a deep-seated fear of emotional closeness, leading to difficulties in forming and maintaining intimate relationships.
Who’s to blame here?!
It’s completely normal for conflicts to arise in relationships. But, how we respond to these conflicts can reveal deep-seated patterns and beliefs about ourselves and others. Some individuals have a natural tendency to blame others when faced with challenges, deflecting responsibility and externalizing the problem. Conversely, others are quick to shoulder the blame, assuming fault even when it may not be warranted.
Why it’s easier to blame yourself in relationships
Self-blame is a common, yet often overlooked, aspect in relationships. When difficulties arise, one partner will often shoulder the responsibility, while the other remains mostly unaccountable. As this cycle perpetuates, it creates an imbalance that prevents growth and healing. In this blog post, we're discussing self-blame in relationships, why it's often easier to blame ourselves than our partners, and how this pattern can impact individual and relational well-being.
The complex grief of seeking space from your parents
As a therapist specializing in trauma recovery, I often work with individuals who make the challenging decision to establish boundaries or seek space from their parents. This choice can stem from various factors, each contributing to a unique and complex set of emotions. Let's explore some common reasons why adults may choose this path and discuss the grief and guilt that accompanies such a decision.
Time for a quiz! What’s your personality type?
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a widely used personality assessment tool designed to offer insights into individual preferences, tendencies, and behaviors. Developed by Katharine Cook Briggs and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers in the mid-20th century, the MBTI draws upon the psychological theories of Carl Jung to categorize individuals into one of 16 distinct personality types.
Narcissism & DARVO
In recent years, the term "narcissism" has become increasingly prevalent in discussions about personality traits and interpersonal dynamics. Narcissism, rooted in Greek mythology, refers to a personality disorder characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a need for excessive admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. The rise of social media and a culture of self-promotion have greatly contributed to the visibility of narcissistic behaviors in society today.
My partner thinks we should go to sex therapy…
Sex therapy is often the first step that many couples take in hopes of fostering deeper connection and satisfaction in their relationship as a whole. But, it isn’t always the most successful or sustainable route to take. As a couples therapist, I've worked with many individuals and couples who’ve ultimately discovered that the source of their disconnection goes deeper than sex.
I’m the only one who wants change in my relationships…
The journey of self-discovery and healing is often fueled by a desire for positive change in various aspects of our lives, including relationships. However, one common frustration that emerges is the realization that, despite your personal growth and evolving perspectives, the same may not be true for those around you.
Can I repair relationships if I’m conflict avoidant?
In this blog post, we'll explore what it means to be conflict avoidant, the impact of childhood experiences on conflict resolution, and how therapeutic work can empower individuals to repair relationships even when conflict feels challenging.
The balancing act of teasing in relationships: When fun crosses the line
There's a fine line between harmless fun and hurtful teasing that can strain a relationship.
How is Complex Trauma (C-PTSD) similar to or different from PTSD?
C-PTSD is very similar to PTSD, but it is more complex and has more far-reaching effects on a person's emotional, psychological, and relationship health.
If I have an insecure attachment, can I ever feel securely attached to someone?
It’s absolutely possible to find a secure, connected, emotionally safe relationship with a friend, family member, or partner.
How your attachment style affects your friendships & dating life
Attachment theory primarily came out of research between infants and caregivers, so what does attachment style have anything to do with your adult relationships, you may ask?
What do you mean by “Attachment Style”?
You’ve seen “attachment” show up more and more in social media, but what does it really mean?